May 31, 2013

Own Your Personal Journey

Baja-Shamanic-JourneyLast week, someone said something to me that I have found challenging to process. Then, I met with my accountability partner and our discussion put things into perspective. I’ve come to 2 realizations:

Do not let the linear thinking of others determine your personal path

One of my closet friends told me that I should either stay in the house I was in or find another house some place else that I could afford; but foremost, to let go of my dream to live on water. I’ve been trying for a few years to make my dream a reality and so far it hasn’t come to fruition. I’ve tried different Realtors, explored diverse waterfront areas, and of course, been in close contact with my mortgage guy. But the one thing I haven’t done, is accept that my dream will never come to fruition. Maybe now isn’t the right time. Maybe I need to focus on other areas of my life. My journey, my path, is mine and mine alone. It may not be the shortest distance between two points (i.e. a straight line). It may meander at times. It may even have to take a detour every now and again. But it’s mine and I own it, where ever it goes. Besides, when you let go of your dreams, doesn’t part of you die? Which brings me to my second point:

Embrace what you cannot change, until you can

Yes, the house thing hasn’t worked out for me–yet. So, in the interim, I’m going to continue making improvements to my current home. I’m going to work on building my business. I’ll keep an eye on the housing market. And from time to time, I’ll look at listings to keep my finger on the pulse of the real estate market. But what I will not do, is give up.

What my accountability partner pointed out to me was that some people think in a straight line. There’s nothing wrong with that. But that kind of thinking isn’t for everyone. And we creative types don’t tend to be of that mindset. See, while I was envisioning my dream house on the water, I was also building a business. Creating my first proposal for a health care start-up. Developing a forum for my writing, via this blog. I even started going back to the gym– spin classes and 30 minutes worth of laps at the gym pool–woo hoo!

One day, I’ll have my house on the water. I don’t know when. I’m not even sure where, I just know that it will happen–primarily because it is a desire of my heart and I believe God when He said He’d deliver. And yes, I’ll still invite my friend over for the house-warming party.

Share this Post


  1. dwayman said:

    I love this post! I’ve been struggling with accepting some delayed dreams of my own as of late!


    1. T.L. Finney said:

      Thank you! Patience is not my strongest virtue, so it can be hard. But hang in there!


  2. Wendy said:

    Who’s this accountability partner?? I like the way they think. This is a great post. Really good points. Sometimes people can’t fathom something lofty coming to fruition and that’s too bad for them, but good that you have faith that your waterfront living is within the realm of possibility. Sounds like your life’s lens is getting clearer not cloudy… May your waterfront home come to be sooner vs. later;)


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

subscribe to my newsletter:

We won’t ever sell or give away your info. (Not even for free books!)

View Privacy Policy »